That question made me chuckle, because I have specifically adapted my approach to my weekly writing deadline to _avoid_ treating it like a military standard. It started that way. 1620EST every Saturday. Over time I learned the specific time was too constrictive. It was unnecessary and caused unwanted stress. The weekly Saturday goal is still vital, just not the specific time. The pressure I want (need?) is similar, but now it’s there by my choice. A little bit of that familiar military pressure is still aligned. :)
Thank you for your kind words and thoughtful questions. I think you're right... much of my work here is a reflection on recovery. I hope you don't mind if I 'borrow' that term at some point. :)
I appreciate you noting the "lived-in" part of the framework. It came together very much through addressing real challenges in my personal life. My work here captures both practical application and some of the theory as well.
As for what helps stick to my boundaries, particularly on difficult days lacking motivation or clarity... Knowing I've deliberately set my priorities and managed my boundaries while seeking alignment helps by providing a solid framework I can trust -- a scaffolding I can lean on. Recognizing the framework is designed to provide stability, not perfection, allows me to give myself a little grace when things don't go exactly as planned. :)
Your final question regarding time is difficult. The best answer is probably that I've learned to accept more flexibility with it. In my career, timeliness was typically an imperative. Almost everything had a deadline or specific time to be accomplished. In many cases, particularly in aviation, being early was as bad as being late. Learning to be more flexible with time, allowing some to be 'wasted,' and understanding it's not something I can (or should try) to fully control have all been parts of my evolving perspective on time.
Thanks again for your kinds words and thoughtful questions. Welcome! 8^)
That question made me chuckle, because I have specifically adapted my approach to my weekly writing deadline to _avoid_ treating it like a military standard. It started that way. 1620EST every Saturday. Over time I learned the specific time was too constrictive. It was unnecessary and caused unwanted stress. The weekly Saturday goal is still vital, just not the specific time. The pressure I want (need?) is similar, but now it’s there by my choice. A little bit of that familiar military pressure is still aligned. :)
Thank you for your kind words and thoughtful questions. I think you're right... much of my work here is a reflection on recovery. I hope you don't mind if I 'borrow' that term at some point. :)
I appreciate you noting the "lived-in" part of the framework. It came together very much through addressing real challenges in my personal life. My work here captures both practical application and some of the theory as well.
As for what helps stick to my boundaries, particularly on difficult days lacking motivation or clarity... Knowing I've deliberately set my priorities and managed my boundaries while seeking alignment helps by providing a solid framework I can trust -- a scaffolding I can lean on. Recognizing the framework is designed to provide stability, not perfection, allows me to give myself a little grace when things don't go exactly as planned. :)
Your final question regarding time is difficult. The best answer is probably that I've learned to accept more flexibility with it. In my career, timeliness was typically an imperative. Almost everything had a deadline or specific time to be accomplished. In many cases, particularly in aviation, being early was as bad as being late. Learning to be more flexible with time, allowing some to be 'wasted,' and understanding it's not something I can (or should try) to fully control have all been parts of my evolving perspective on time.
Thanks again for your kinds words and thoughtful questions. Welcome! 8^)