I appreciate your BLUF: burnout is not a weakness. Also, it is a leader/manager’s responsibility to take care of their people. Burnout at work can be avoided with the right people in charge. Do you feel your leadership was there for you during your last few months of active duty? Were your leaders aware of your struggles?
I have a name for the perfectionist inside me. I tell her to simmer down or be quiet when she’s bugging me with extra tasks that aren’t necessary. I tell her to go away or leave me alone or just get used to it, i.e., crumbs, weeds, granules of cat litter on the basement stairs, a disheveled desk, disheveled anything. I don’t have mental space for her or the time. The car needs washed, and she insists. I take a nap instead.
Leaders, managers, or supervisors taking care of their people is huge. It doesn't happen often enough. This is a precise action point for "be the change you want to see in the world." Being the boss you wish you had can change lives and slowly steer organizations.
As for my leadership, they did well near the end of my career. It seems experiences vary _widely_ as vets wind down their service. I think in some ways they may have been more aware of my struggles than I was. :)
At risk of upsetting She-who-shall-not-be-named, I'm glad you seem to have her generally in line. Your attitude sounds appropriate and effective. I may give it a shot.
I just met my inner perfectionist, who has been largely running the show without my knowledge for quite some time. We're still figuring things out. We may be kinda stuck in the "storming" phase for... a while.
Yes, I like bossing her around for a change and telling her to scram. Making the perfectionist another "person" enables me to take a more objective stand against those compulsions. Life goes on, God bless this mess!
I appreciate your BLUF: burnout is not a weakness. Also, it is a leader/manager’s responsibility to take care of their people. Burnout at work can be avoided with the right people in charge. Do you feel your leadership was there for you during your last few months of active duty? Were your leaders aware of your struggles?
I have a name for the perfectionist inside me. I tell her to simmer down or be quiet when she’s bugging me with extra tasks that aren’t necessary. I tell her to go away or leave me alone or just get used to it, i.e., crumbs, weeds, granules of cat litter on the basement stairs, a disheveled desk, disheveled anything. I don’t have mental space for her or the time. The car needs washed, and she insists. I take a nap instead.
Leaders, managers, or supervisors taking care of their people is huge. It doesn't happen often enough. This is a precise action point for "be the change you want to see in the world." Being the boss you wish you had can change lives and slowly steer organizations.
As for my leadership, they did well near the end of my career. It seems experiences vary _widely_ as vets wind down their service. I think in some ways they may have been more aware of my struggles than I was. :)
At risk of upsetting She-who-shall-not-be-named, I'm glad you seem to have her generally in line. Your attitude sounds appropriate and effective. I may give it a shot.
I just met my inner perfectionist, who has been largely running the show without my knowledge for quite some time. We're still figuring things out. We may be kinda stuck in the "storming" phase for... a while.
Yes, I like bossing her around for a change and telling her to scram. Making the perfectionist another "person" enables me to take a more objective stand against those compulsions. Life goes on, God bless this mess!